Parents of children with special needs go through some steps in caring for their child.
First is DISBELIEF.
Who would have thought that their child has special needs? Who would have thought that their child would be diagnosed with Autism, ADHD, mental retardation, learning disabilities or other conditions? They ask, “God, why does it have to be my child?”
Alongside disbelief is DENIAL.
Parents see nothing wrong with their child. It might just the child has more energy than others, or their child may just have a slower rate of understanding than other children their child’s age. Is it?
They suddenly ask questions “Maybe because children develop at different paces so my child is not exempt with this? Why are children different from one other? Why do children have their own specific talents and interests? What is my child’s special talent and interest?”
Then there’s GRIEF.
Yes, parents grieve.
They grieve the loss of their dream for their child who can never be the doctor they wanted their child to be. They grieve because no matter how much treatment or intervention is given to their child they feel that their child may not be capable of living a life like others.
They have the nagging question, “What would happen if we die (first)? Who would take care of our child?”
Questions too difficult to answer for now.
Time flies.
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We moms are known to be great at multi-tasking. We accomplish a lot in a short time, but that also makes us more prone to stress than most people.
We also know that there are many ways to reduce stress. We need to exercise, and eat right and get plenty of rest and recreation. We need to de-clutter our mind of all that negative energy.
But do you know that there is another way to keep stress at bay that is easy, quick, simple and costs nothing?
Grab your honey and smooch away the worries!
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I can’t count with the fingers on my left hand the number of women friends I have who don’t wish to walk down the aisle to pledge her life to the man of her dreams. Almost all women dream of just that…a dream wedding.
To be completely honest, I had no illusions of a grand wedding. I didn’t even have illusions of a wedding. I just wanted to be with the man I wanted to grow old with. I didn’t need a tear inducing ceremony. I didn’t need a 3 Michelin star worthy dinner reception. I didn’t need any of that…until I started planning my bestfriend’s wedding.
Trust the saying that “opposites attract.” This cannot be more true in the case of my bestfriend and I. I am the complete anti-thesis of whatever my bestfriend represents..and vice versa. My bestfriend’s a nerd and I’m a jock. My bestfriend likes the urban life and I love the outdoors. I’m a little bit country and my bestfriend is a little bit rock and roll.
So when I started planning my bestfriend’s wedding I had to throw all my prejudices out the window and listen to what my bestfriend wanted. Not to say that I couldn’t give my 2 cent’s worth of advice. I could you know, that’s what bestfriends are for, right.
Without any hesitation whatsoever, I helped plan my bestfriend’s wedding. Right from the get-go I was there. In fact, he barely lifted a finger. That’s how much of a bestfriend I can be when I want to be.
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